The Role of a Relationship Life Coach

Interpersonal relationships in the 21st century have changed drastically through the years. With the advent of smart gadgets and online technology, people can communicate with different races and personalities from all over the world. Yet, we cannot deny that people in the 21st century have become absorbed in their virtual reality. We have been focused on self-improvement, self-awareness, and being “ourselves” that we have forgotten that part of our personal growth is learning how to build relationships with other human beings. When one becomes extremely different from others, the tendency is to become self-isolated to protect oneself from negative criticisms. This is the importance of building relationships and connecting. By discovering commonalities in interest, values, and ideologies, camaraderie, friendship, and long-term commitments are created. This is why, in times of conflict and personal differences, a relationship life coach may be needed.

What is a Relationship Life Coach?

A relationship life coach is a person who encourages and promotes healthy relationships. They act as personal interventions between partners for them to understand each other. This is different from counseling or psychiatry wherein the rapport is between client and professional. A relationship life coach involves couples or partners.

What does the Relationship Life Coach do exactly?

Their main objective is conflict resolution and relationship repair. Oftentimes, divorce reasons are due to “irreconcilable difference” meaning that partners are in extreme contrast with one another that they cannot find a common ground to fix their problems. Relationship life coaches try to alleviate that problem by building communication by allowing couples to express their frustrations with one another, identify their setbacks and help them understand how they can accept each other’s imperfections.

Most of the time, these life coaches will focus on the positive effects of relationships of couples. With the participation of couples, they try to bring back reasons on why couples commit to a relationship in the first place. This can be achieved through recollection of memorable experiences and deepening of intimacy (e.g. holding hands, a warm embrace, etc.).

There are times when couples have gone deep into their internal conflicts, they have built an invisible wall of frustration, suppressed anger, and resentment to protect themselves. Relationship life coaches try to break that carrier and encourage trust and respect towards his/her partner leading to self-healing and development.

What are the values of a Relationship Life Coach?

These people work in a positive way to promote self-growth. They recognize that a person cannot progress faster only by moving on their own as compared to progressing with other individuals. They place the importance of friendship, intimacy, personal communication, and problem resolutions as strong foundations to a healthy relationship. They will involve couples, not just in passive instruction and demonstration but in active efforts to take care of their interpersonal connection. They will only act as a guide or a medium but not as the center of the couple’s relationship. This happens so that when the therapy ends, the couples may separate from the coach independently and learn how to carry on with their partners with a more positive outlook.